Here's To A Good Story in 2013

My mind is a funny thing. It likes to play tricks on me - it often tells me that I am stuck in a rut, that my life is meaningless and that I have no purpose. It compares my accomplishments to those around me and makes me feel guilty for not achieving more. During one of my emotional self-pity-parties I decided to take inventory on the things that I had accomplished in 2012. This was a very humbling and eye-opening exercise. I realized that the daily drudge of my life has shielded my view of the incredible blessings and opportunities that Brad and I have been given in the past 12 months. Once these blinders were removed, I began to take stock of what we are so lucky to have and be truly thankful. I have decided to share the list below, in hopes that it inspires you to carefully consider your own life and remember how blessed you are. 

In 2012 we....

1. Rang in the new year painting at my sister’s new house
2. I made the front page of the Madison Courier as one of Madison’s top 10 young people
3. Moved my sister in to her college house
4. Signed up for Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University
5. Visited some people that we love in South Carolina
6. Climbed in the ruins of an old castle
7. Spent St. Patrick’s Day in Northern Ireland
8. Got chased by some sheep in a field in Ireland
9. Brad officiated the wedding of his sister
10. Paid $1,000 in taxes
11. Completed Dave Ramsey's Step 1
12. Took my sister to her senior prom
13. Ordered a pallet of bottled water from Lowe’s 
14. Saw Over the Rhine with our friends at the folk festival
15. Moved in with my parents
16. Celebrated our second anniversary
17. Watched my sister graduate from High School
18. Went camping with my mater and Corey
19. Welcomed the 2012 Ulster Project teens to Madison as Presidents of the organization and Time of Discovery leaders
20. Slept in cardboard boxes for the second annual homeless simulation
21. Got on a bus and spent 9 hours in Chicago with a group of pretty cool people
22. Raised $15,000 at the Ulster Project dinner auction
23. Put on my wedding dress and dressed as a zombie bride for Halloween in July
24. Took a 3-hour tour on the Belle of Louisville
25. Did the Velisoraptor an embarrassing number of times in public
26. Said goodbye to a group of amazing teens and two of the best people I know
27. Started a weekly tradition of Thursday night dinners at the Burdettes
28. Watched a meteor shower from the camper
29. Paid off our Visa and 2 store credit cards and started chipping away at our "dumb debt"
30. Launched a new website for the Chamber & Economic Development
31. Went to see Mumford & Sons for Brad’s birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
32. Got an awesome new hair cut & color from my sister-in-law
33. Took our niece to Chuck-E-Cheese’s
34. Went to the Casino in Anderson and won some monies!
35. Ate aussie burgers and solved the world's problems around a campfire with our new Australian friends
36. Started a Couch to 5K running program
37. Won free tickets to NASCA & went to a NASCAR race for the first time ever
38. Visited friends for our yearly ritual at the Evansville Fall Festival (including donut burgers!!)
39. Made 15 gallons of white bean chili and bought 80 pounds of apples for Soup, Stew, Chili & Brew
40. Put on a very successful Soup, Stew, Chili & Brew festival
41. Voted early for the 2012 Presidential election
42. Dressed up as Silent Film stars for a Halloween party
43. Packed our bags and headed to Ireland again, this time for a leadership conference
44. Flew out of New York City a day before Hurricane Sandy blew in
45. Joined the Ulster Project International steering committee
46. Spent Halloween with a group of diverse people who have found enough in common to love each other
47. Had tea with the Lord Mayor of Belfast, a former Ulster Project teen
48. Toured Stormont and met with different sides of the local government in Belfast
49. Visited the peace walls and wrote our own messages of peace, hope, and reconciliation
50. Spent a day at YouthLink, an inter-church organization that provides support and training for youth workers and community relations experiences for young people, on the very day that prison officer David Black was shot by dissident republicans on the M1 on his way to work, a mere 15 miles from where we were
51. Toured the Titanic Belfast Museum, the Titanic Quarter and got a private tour of the studio where they film Game of Thrones
52. Had lunch at the Dock Café, an Honesty Box Café  in which there is no charge for the food but you can make a donation for what you think it’s worth
53. Had dinner with Rev. Kerry Waterstone, who founded the Ulster Project in 1975
54. Went on a scary/sexy tour of the Leprechaun museum in Dublin
55. Watched Skyfall in Ireland before it was released in the US
56. Came  back to America just in time to watch the results of the election
57. Received a $2,000 grant from the Community Foundation to implement our Leadership Development Program in the 2013 Madison Ulster Project
58. Celebrated Thanksgiving with our families
59. Sang drunken karaoke at Beatniks with some old buddies
60. Decorated our new space for Christmas
61. Made a giant world out of pvc pipes, a tarp and spray paint
62. Dressed as post cards and walked in the Very Merry Madison Christmas parade
63. Discovered that someone broke into our storage unit but took nothing
64. Two beautiful little girls came into our lives and we have spent many days watching Dora and playing with blocks and baby dolls
65. Started cooking in the crock pot
66. Watched as our nation picked up the pieces of broken hearts in the wake of a tragedy in Connecticut when a gunman entered an elementary school and killed 26 people including teachers, young students and himself
67. Drove up to Brad's parents' house while they were on vacation to paint and redecorate our niece's room as a Christmas surprise
68. Hung out with my dad as he recovered from his second hip replacement surgery
69. Celebrated my 26th birthday with awesome coworkers then dinner and craft-night with the Burdettes
70. Hot glued over 4 bags of Christmas bows to a party dress and a Goodwill sweater for an ugly Christmas sweater party
71. Brad cooked the traditional family Christmas Eve dinner with an amazing riesling and mustard glazed ham
72. Celebrated Christmas traditions - both new and old - with our families
73. Enjoyed a snow day the day after Christmas
74. Built a snowman with my mom outside my sister's window
75. Ended 2012 with some Modern Family, Scrabble, and Goldschlager and started 2013 with a midnight kiss (followed by a Skype call to our friends in Northern Ireland)

All in all, I would say that all of those things add up to a pretty incredible year. I am looking forward to 2013 where my main goals are to save more money than I spend, burn more calories than I consume, do more for others than I do for myself, and practice resurrection by making ugly things beautiful and bringing dead things back to life. I want to count my blessings each day and not fall victim to the tricks of my mind. I will end with my favorite quote from Donald Miller: “And so my prayer is that your story will have involved some leaving and some coming home, some summer and some winter, some roses blooming out like children in a play. My hope is your story will be about changing, about getting something beautiful born inside of you about learning to love a woman or a man, about learning to love a child, about moving yourself around water, around mountains, around friends, about learning to love others more than we love ourselves, about learning oneness as a way of understanding God. We get one story, you and I, and one story alone. God has established the elements, the setting and the climax and the resolution. It would be a crime not to venture out, wouldn't it?" 

So here's to 2013 - may you and I continue to live a good story, one that is worth retelling, one that we can be proud of when we look back on it in a year's time. 

Peace & Blessings

  

Leaving and Coming Home: Part 2

If you would have told me 6 months ago that I would be traveling to Northern Ireland twice in one year, I would have thought you were crazy. But life has a funny way of surprising you and rewarding you when you least expect it. I feel incredibly blessed with the opportunities Brad and I have been given. 2013 is going to have a hard time topping the many adventures and experiences that 2012 has presented!

While our first trip was incredible and memorable, the second trip will forever hold a special place in my heart. We got to be a part of the initial stages of the Ulster Project Graduate Program. And it opened my eyes to the extreme beauty and darkness that exists within mankind.

Here are some highlights from the trip:

Day 1 – Saturday October 27, 2012
Brad and I were transported to the airport by ever so lovely and wonderful Colleen & McKay Burdette! After a pit-stop at Steak ‘N Shake, we were on our way to Cincinnati, where we had to check an extra bag full of candy and treats for our friends! Things were fairly uneventful, other than the fact that we were leaving New York City as Hurricane Sandy was coming in (we missed her by about a day). The overnight flight to Dublin seemed long and tiresome and I sat next to what I will refer to as the “Seat Nazi.” She was very territorial and I was terrified to get up to use the toilet. But 2 movies, 2 meals and a half a book later, I survived and we landed in Dublin.

Day 2 – Sunday October 28, 2012
We got off the plane and made it through customs (where Brad was accidentally granted a 90 day visa!) and found James and Laura anxious awaiting our arrival! After a loud and joyous reunion, we headed to Enniskillen with some stops to take pictures along the way. Laura skipped church and we all had breakfast together at Wetherspoons. We went on to James’ house to rest and recover from the flight. James had to work at the Crowe’s at 6, so we went with him and met up with Lindsey and Stephen. Brad, Laura and I walked to McDonalds to see some of the previous years’ teens. We walked back to the Crowe’s and helped James close up for the night.

Day 3 – Monday October 29, 2012
This day was full of fun! We met up with last year’s teens at the youth center and celebrated Josh’s birthday - complete with pin the tail on the donkey, cake, candles, air hockey, laughter, and American sweets! Then we all headed across the street to Maude’s for some good food and more laughter. We finished strong at Costa Coffee in the mall and saw even more teens! It was a great day of reliving old memories and creating new ones. We said goodbye to the teens and headed to Wetherspoons for a Quiz, only to discover that it was super lame. But it was still a good day overall!

Day 4 – Tuesday October 30, 2012
Last day in Enniskillen L After packing up the car, we headed to the Enniskillen Castle for a tour. Then I had a coffee date with Colin & Lynne and we had a great time catching up and shedding light on some of the things that happened in the past. It was a very humbling and redeeming conversation and it set the tone for a great ride to Belfast, picking up Les Sage in Omagh on the way. We spent the hour and a half talking about exciting things that are happening in our projects and new ideas for Time of Discovery. It’s a beautiful thing when the “babies” and the “dinosaurs” can come together with their ideas and perspectives. After getting checked into the apartment in Belfast, we met up with more of the Americans at the Crown Pub for a few pints and warm welcomes.

Day 5 – Wednesday October 31, 2012
A Halloween that will not soon be forgotten. We spent the morning at Belfast City Hall with the Lord Mayor, who is a former Ulster Project teen. He talked about how he is using his leadership position to bring the two sides together – a true message of hope for the Ulster Project. Then we went to Stormont to tour the parliament building and meet with different sides of the local government. We visited the peace walls and saw messages of hope and reconciliation and change and we wrote messages of our own. We visited a chapel and prayed to the Prince of Peace to unite us when differences divide. We ended the evening with a group dinner at Made in Belfast, where the food was great and the company was even better! And we all learned a lesson in sharing J

Day 6 – Thursday November 1, 2012
The day started off with the tragic news of a man who was killed on the M1 on his way to work. David Black, a prison officer, was attacked a mere 15 miles from where we were in Belfast. This act of violence was an attempt to stir up the Troubles that exist just beneath the surface. Our group spent the day at YouthLink, an inter-church organization that provides support and training for youth workers and community relations experiences for young people. Our conversations focused on the hopes, fears, purpose and direction of the Ulster Project as we move forward. The death of David Black definitely gave us all a bit of perspective and reminded us that our work with the project is so relevant. I think we were all a little more motivated to continue to break down the barriers and walls in people’s minds. The time flew by and we were all a little sad to see it end. We all reconvened for dinner at the Crown Pub (excellent food shared with friends!) and some of us stuck around afterwards to continue the discussions from earlier.

Brad, James, Laura and I had a bit of a late night, as we met up with Ruairy and another one of James’ friends for some pints and laughs. Well worth the few hours of sleep we got that night!

Day 7 – Friday November 2, 2012
If I had to come up with one word for this day, it would be soggy. A heavy rain poured over us as we toured the Titanic Quarter, but that didn't stop us from having a good time! First, we saw the set where Game of Thrones was filmed. Although I've never seen it, I guess it’s a pretty big deal. Next, we toured the Titanic Drawing Room that is currently not open to the public. This is the room where the plans for the Titanic were written and drawn up. Pretty cool stuff! We also got to see a development model of the future plans for Belfast. Once inside Titanic Belfast, we had tea and coffee to warm up before our self-guided tour through the exhibit began. We got to see the Titanic staircase and all sorts of neat Titanic artifacts and replications. A very cool experience. Next time you’re in Belfast, you should definitely go! We had lunch at The Dock Café, which is best described as “a pop-up coffee shop, art venue and information point, right in the heart of the Titanic Quarter beside SS Nomadic. It’s a space for community, chat, chilling-out, meeting-up…Life in the Titanic Quarter.” They call themselves an Honesty Box Café, in which there is no charge for the food but you can make a donation for what you think it’s worth. Such a neat concept and it’s thriving! Be sure to check them out: http:www.thedockchurch.org

The rest of the afternoon was spent shopping and getting ready for the evening.

Friday night we were joined by Rev. Kerry Waterstone, who founded the Ulster Project in 1975. It was such an incredible experience to witness how things have come full circle since then. He gave a very inspiring speech about why he started the project and how it was still needed today. I feel so honored to be a small part of such a powerful and life-changing program.

We said our goodbyes to the Graduate Program people and headed out for a fun night in Belfast.

Day 8 – Saturday November 3, 2012
We packed up all of our things and had a delicious lunch at Nandos. We did some last-minute shopping before heading out of the city. We had a little bit of an adventure looking for an Asda on our way to Dublin, only to find that the one on the map was not even open yet! We made it to Stephen’s house just in time to catch the train into the City Centre. We met up with Laura’s friends and went on a scary/sexy tour of the leprechaun museum – that was definitely an interesting experience! We had a great night out in Dublin drinking and impressing each other with magic and card tricks. End day 8.

Day 9 – Sunday November 4, 2012
This was a lazy day, but it is just what we needed. The boys didn’t get out of bed until 1:00! We had a nice brunch and then did some shopping and watched Skyfall. We had Thai food back at the house then Brad and I packed up our stuff to leave in the morning L

Day 10 – Monday November 5, 2012
Our trip home was pretty uneventful. We stayed awake most of the flight and watched movies. Once we landed in New York, it was quite evident that our country had gone temporarily insane over the election. I finished reading The Book Thief  in the airport and bawled my eyes out in front of several thousand strangers. That was fun. My parents picked us up in Cincinnati and we ate at Skyline Chili on the way home. We were home by 9:30 and asleep by 10:00 and at work by 8:00 the next morning. To say we were exhausted would be an understatement, but it was well worth every second of it and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Final Reflections: Beauty and darkness. Darkness that exists with the taking of a man’s life as a result of the Troubles, the “peace walls” that still divide the city, and the animosity that is still present just below the surface in Northern Ireland. And in our own country - darkness in the hatred that has been spewed from both sides as a result of this election, and an unwillingness to come together and work things out. But still so much beauty – the beauty that comes from a diverse group of people who have found enough in common to love each other, the beauty of both sides coming to the table with creative imagination to dream up a better world, the beauty of redemption and forgiveness. I have seen a small fragment of the darkness, but I have also seen the brilliant light bursting forth. I have hope for the future. I believe another world is possible. And I believe that we are the ones that can make it happen if we continue to work together. 

Love & Peace,

Katie 

"Settling Down Without Settling"

I recently read an article in Relevant Magazine entitled "Settling Down Without Settling." It would be an understatement to say that this article spoke to my soul. I would plagiarize the whole thing here if I could. But I figured it would be best to paraphrase the key points and add in some of my own thoughts. So here it goes. This is where I have been lately - in a strange place between "young adult" and "grown up." And somehow I got lost in the transition, like I missed an exit or something. 

I have mentioned this in a previous blog post, but I feel like I have spent my whole life waiting. In high school I was always waiting for college. Once I reached the milestone of graduation and finally made it to college, I found myself waiting there too. I was waiting for my chance to change the world once I graduated. After college, I was waiting for find a job, get married, start a life.
Now my real life is here. The only thing is, it looks nothing like I thought that it would. Brad and I have been living in Madison for the past 2 years, and it seems like we have settled here - at least for the foreseeable future. Which means we won't be in the dozens of other places we'd like to be. We won't live every alternative life we've envisioned for ourselves. 

The word "settle" is terrifying to me. As the Relevant article said, "it often precedes those ugly words 'for less.' It carries with it that frightening connotation of compromise, like letting the person you love slip away while you marry someone else." And then they posed this question: Is it inevitable we settle like that?

We both went to a college where the phrase "World Changer" was drilled into us. For four years (five for Brad!) we were told to dream  big, that we could go anywhere, do anything, and be anyone. I remember one professor telling us that God would be disappointed in us if our dreams were too small. I think that is why the reality of our situation has hit me so hard. The truth is, we have limits. With the debt of our college degrees hanging over our heads, the big dreams and world changing lifestyle seem too far to reach. We have to pay the bills. In the pursuit of all these things, we have become ordinary. 

Our hearts ache with fresh memories of the townships in South Africa, the faces of orphans in Haiti, and the body of Christ that we feel so connected to which is spread around the world. We try to find community here. It comes in the form of weekly dinners with new friends that uplift our souls. Everyday we go off to our jobs and deal with the different stresses that each one brings. We make decisions about how to spend/save our money so one day we can feel like we are making it on our own. 

The following paragraph is a direct quote from the article, because it was too true for me to change in any way.

WHO DOESN’T FEEL SORT OF TRAPPED? WHO ISN’T ASKING, “IS THIS ALL THERE IS”?

"We look around at people who have been on this normal route for longer than we have, and it’s scary how many are disappointed. Many are married, many have homes and several have children. Many wish their jobs paid just a little more. Some struggle to stay afloat, needing two wage-earners in the home even when one spouse would love to stay home or volunteer more. Others feel lonely and wish they could move closer to a church, friends or family. Who doesn’t feel sort of trapped? Who isn’t asking, 'Is this all there is'?"

So we have given ourselves this challenge - make the ordinary into an adventure. We want to choose to live and notice amazing days, right in the here and now. And so while we are living with my parents, we also take weekend trips to visit friends and re-energize. We sit out by the fire in the evenings and try to spend more time talking to people than watching stuff on Netflix. We are embracing the Dave Ramsey way of life and turning the envelope method into a monthly challenge to do better with our finances. We are pouring ourselves into the Ulster Project because we believe in it. And at the end of October, we get to return to Northern Ireland because God is faithful!

In all this, we remember inspiring voices of people we’ve met in stricter circumstances who live out the same values of community, generosity and intentionality. I think of my friends in South Africa who settled into a township to care for the children of Linawo Children's home. Brad thinks of his missionary friends in Haiti who have dedicated themselves to providing love, hope, and a future to the people of La Gonave. They remind us that settling down doesn’t have to mean settling for less.

I will end with the closing statement from the article in Relevant. "We owe it to people in the hard places to not settle for a comfortable status quo here. We owe it to them—and to ourselves—to live intentionally, to live generously, to live an adventure in the everyday ordinary."

When I Look at the Stars

A lot of things in my life don't make sense right now. Of course, I can rationalize why these things are happening but I still have this uncertainty in the pit of my stomach. My main concern is this: I am almost 26 years old and I haven't figured out how to be an adult. There's a list of things in my head that adults should be able to do and I fall short on almost every one. I'm sure things will start to come together and it will all make sense someday, but for the moment I feel like I'm shooting in the dark.

Speaking of shooting in the dark, last night there was a meteor shower in my backyard. In fact, it was the Perseid Meteor Shower that occurs each year in late July and early August when our planet passes through the dusty remains of some comet or something. I don't know science. But I do know that between the hours of 3 and 4 am I watched over 15 shooting stars fly across the night sky. In the pre-dawn moments, I realized that I am a tiny tiny piece in a great big universe. My life is so small and seemingly insignificant compared to the cosmos. I find a sense of peace in knowing that - that even though I am a speck in the grand scheme of things, I am still loved and cared for. It reminds me of a song/poem by Bradley Hathaway:

Look up, look up, look up into the sky, love

You see that moon shining so high up above us?

It rolls around on account of a bunch of scientific stuff

I like to think it does just because He loves us. 

(I did not take the above photo. I just wanted to share its beauty.)

Basically what I'm trying to say is this: Each day is a blessing because I am alive and breathing and surrounded by people who love me, most of the time unconditionally. Even though my life is small in comparison, I play a significant role in the lives of others around me. It feels good to know that I am connected to something that is so much bigger than anything I could imagine. Even if it doesn't all make sense right now...  

Peace and an Unpeaceful Me

Ulster Project season is almost here. I can smell it in the air. I can feel it in my bones. In a little more than 24 hours a group of teens are going to step onto a plane for a journey that will change their lives. And each year that I participate, I too am changed. A little piece of me gets closer to the way things God intended. We all see a clearer picture of what the Kingdom of Heaven would look like here on earth. The Prince of Peace gives us a glimpse of what is spoken in Isaiah 2:4, "He will judge between the nations and will settle disputes for many peoples. They will beat their swords into plowshares and their spears into pruning hooks. Nation will not take up sword against nation, nor will they train for war anymore." 

I am amazed and humbled at how unqualified I am to teach other people about peace and reconciliation. If we want to see peace in the world, it has to start from within. You can ask Brad or others who are close to me - I am not always the most peaceful person. My patience is thin and my tongue quick to lash out. My soul is restless. In the past few days alone I have learned more than I ever thought I could about remaining peaceful in a time of unrest and turmoil. And let me tell you, it is much easier said than done.   

Peace is a lofty and noble goal, but it will never fully be achieved on this earth. I believe that people are innately good, but we have hardened over the years and some of us have lost touch with that soft side. We have forgotten how good it is to feel for people other than ourselves. And that is the opposite of peace: not violence or war, but the idea that we are all islands fighting to stand our own ground. It will not be until we remember that we are all an interconnected mass - one body - that peace can even be within our reach. Co-existence maybe. But Christ did not die so that His children could co-exist. After all, He is the Prince of Peace.  

Rest

We spent today cleaning out the garage and getting the rest of our things out of the house and into storage. It feels strange to be done with that place and even stranger still is the idea that we're not exactly sure what our next steps are. Transition is a difficult place to be in. But it is also very freeing.

In all of the sorting I came across some of my old journals. I always find it very enlightening (and amusing!) to look back on where I have been. One of the entries I read today stopped me in my tracks. How could something that I wrote 5 years ago still be so relevant in my life today? The topic was on rest and the Sabbath. We know the drill - we are supposed to work diligently for 6 days and rest on the 7th. But what happens when life is so fast-paced and so busy that we forget to rest? We are so involved and responsible for so many things that demand our time and our attention, even on the Sabbath. It would be irresponsible for us to rest. Right? The problem with this busy lifestyle is that it messes up the rhythm of life, and it takes away from one of the most beautiful gifts God has ever given us - rest. When God commands the Sabbath in Exodus 20, it is right after the Israelites left Egypt, where they were slaves. By establishing the Sabbath, God is telling his people, "You are not in Egypt anymore. Your value is not in how much you can do. Your value is in who you are. I command you one day of rest so you can remember you are free." This was an extremely difficult reminder for me tonight. And what comes next is even more difficult to swallow. It is a quote from Messy Spirituality that I wrote in my journal on June 5, 2007:

"We do know how to rest; we simply refuse to rest. Rest is a decision we make. Rest is choosing to do nothing when we have too much to do, slowing down when we feel pressure to go faster, stopping instead of starting. Rest is listening to our weariness and responding to our tiredness, not to what is making us tired. Rest is what happens when we say one simple word: No. Rest is the ultimate humiliation because in order to rest, we must admit we are not necessary, that the world can get along without us, that God's work does not depend on us. Once we understand how unnecessary we are, only then might we find the right reasons to say yes...."

If you need me tonight, I'll be resting.

Love & Marriage

Today marks the anniversary of our second year of marriage. I dedicate this post to my husband.

The past two years have been an incredible journey for us. I couldn't have asked for anyone better to share my life with. I have come up with a list of things I love about being married to you.

• Two years of fighting over the covers at night and waking up next to you each morning.
• All the time we have spent dreaming and planning together.
• Our ongoing discussion about which food has more uses: the potato or the tomato.
• Watching you cook.
• All of our friends in Seattle, Scranton, Pawnee, and all across the television world.
• All of our road trips to see our real friends in Indianapolis, Pennsylvania, Evansville, South Carolina, Bloomington, etc.
• Raising Tuna Charlie with you!
• Watching our niece grow up.
• Fortnight Fort Night.
• Law & Order SVU marathons.
• Our walks downtown.
• Our trip to Ireland and our many adventures there.
• Two crazy, stressful, incredible, and exhausting July's of Ulster Project - and one on the way!
• Watching you step up and grow as a leader.
• Dressing up as Shrek and Fiona.
• Whitewater rafting with you on our anniversary last year (and watching you save my parents when they both fell out into the rapids!!)

There are too many memories to list on this page, and hopefully many more to come. Happy anniversary, habibti!